Sunday, April 10, 2011

High Tide... Low Tide....

I am starting to have a few of these days more and more which is just great. An ordinary day. For those of us who have spent most of our time dealing with the highs and lows of each day, we treasure those days where there doesn't seem to be any highs or lows. Just a medium slow & steady pace.

Now last night was a different story. Caleb felt very accomplished of the work he had done by cleaning a neighbors yard and earning some money. He and his friend "pooled" there money together to purchase some games. After getting the games home and "test driving" them, buyers remorse sinks in and the rain clouds open up and is hell bent on return the games right then and there. Which is okay, sometimes buyers remorse happens to all of us from time to time. Sometimes with Caleb there is an under lying reason for the return.

Communication is the key factor that we are working on and for him to articulate what he is feeling. It is a long process and last night nothing was working at all. I don't know why suddenly he didn't want the games after much excitement and he was getting very tired of me guessing. So eventually you have to let it go and whatever it is will eventually work itself out. And usually it does.

The lows are what I worry about the most and the fact that the majority of the time he will not talk about what is wrong. You can ask him is he is mad, the reply is no. And the reply is no to "are you sad?" "are you unhappy about something?" "are your feelings hurt?" "do you feel like anything?". Well what has got you so upset (face is obvious that something is wrong).... "I don't know" is what he replies.

Today when he got up. Silliness kicks in. Followed by super silliness and defiance. Now at the end of the day, he is laid back, chilling and playing the video game he was so hell bent on returning.

1 comment:

  1. I hope all has been going well this past month! You're a great mom- you truly care, and are doing beautiful work : ) !

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